Healing From Sexual Abuse Sets You on the Journey of a Lifetime

Healing from sexual abuse sets you on the journey of a lifetime. If your memories were repressed, it’s like being reborn and learning to navigate life as a whole new person. For me, everything was raw at first, but there was also a sense of peace knowing that my real life could finally begin.

I’ll never forget the moment I faced the answer to my biggest question:

“Who sexually abused me?”

I was sitting alone on my balcony, eyes closed, heart open– ready to receive.

And in the silence, I finally heard the truth my body had known all along.

“Daddy. Daddy. Daddy. Daddy. Daddy.”

Then I went inside my closet, curled into a ball, and cried for my mother– just like I did when I was 6.

But she never heard me then, and she couldn’t hear me now.

When I talked it out with my support group, a feeling of peace washed over me.

“Now I can finally heal.”

The coming weeks were raw and painful. But there was also a lightness and a sense of wonder and optimism around how my new life would unfold.

I feel that’s the piece that’s often missing from women who’re facing – or have an inkling but are afraid to face – their abuse: the understanding around the point of it all. The big picture.

You’re not facing your deepest wounds so you can stay stuck and relive the trauma forever.

You’re facing your deepest wounds so you can set yourself free and become the woman you BORN to be.

– Malana